From the moment of mental primacy and the starting point of behavioral evolution or transfiguration of a single individual in the course of his/her life ; in this specific second whatever was considered as known or habituated have entered another dimension where new areas and definitions begin to emerge and define how the dynamics of our life are interacting with every thing in our life with all its details from the second we started breathing in this life until the second our souls cease to inhale life and we shift to the afterlife of unknown eternity.
it surprise my perception how many living beings are forgetful of the fact that everything an individual is doing in their daily life is acting like a pen drawing the design of their life and based on that design the potential of their future will be determined majorly with consideration to destiny and unchangeable circumstances which resemble a minor role for the majority of people in what we can become or experience in the near and far future.
Our life is based on energy between people , planets, living things and items; the relationship between two living things or non-living things determines the outcome of interaction between them and in our life. We’re attracted like magnet pole by many things that life can offer or withhold which is why an observation swifted my thoughts toward labeling this as the psychology of “Multipolar exremisitic living” where I define this concept as [ human beings act as universal pole of energy that can only by pulled to a pole where an extreme value was situated]. in such phenomena, people are only driven to the high life by wanting the best/unique/powerful/interesting possessions in life no matter what’s the cost they might pay in order to reach their goals and they will never rest until they reach the destination where extremism exist.
Many people strive their whole life to be workaholic to own a house that resemble many time more than what they need as residence or pay more than half of their monthly salary for 5 years to own a very expansive car or manipulate people and steal their money so that they can have a first class trip to a destination where they can spend a fortune in order to have a rewarding experience. Why people can’t have a goal of having a descent residential , average car or a logical budget in their travel? Why aiming for the average things seems supremely non interesting for most of people? is the current culture phase that we live in have changed our baseline of psychological reward and taught us that in order to be happy/satisfied you have to aim for the extreme value in any anything you might have or do ?
On a personal level, the value of a certain individual have been equated by contemporary beliefs by their personal possessions, social ranking, career path, materialistic things that they can provide for other; where values such as self-consciousness, genuine unconditional pride or love, honesty, sanity, self control, benevolence and kindness are considered non-
practical values and their existence in a person is considered an accessory and not an essential value in an individual. The self image/esteem of a person is merely a reflection of the social values in where the person is living and such pressuring social norm expectations limits the bassline of values for a person to a specific set of qualities where the person is forced to comply with them unconditionally in order to fit in the society they live in. which make the other values indirectly non-important for the majority of people.
nowadays, many of social norms have been globalized as an indirect affect of the media where the shareability of the events, interests, valuable things are all over the world which have shifted many socities and countries to adjust to the globalization of social norms with disregard to authentic social norms based on religion or cultural costumes.
One of the most trending globalized norms is the fact that success, happiness, satisfaction is all based on money and if you have more money you will have everything that you have ever wished for or live to feel and aspire yourself to be. such materlisitc based living have been found to be not true where many studies showed that happiness is only achieved by having a genuine non-conditional relationship with an another individual as evidenced in the longevity study that took many decades for its result to be published.
In where the prospect of materialistic based living is surely a very wrong way of living and choosing a spiritual path is always satisfactory and will grant you happiness which is the eventual outcome of many things that we aspire our self to do or have. for a very simple observation that you don’t need a person or a possession or achieve a goal to reach happiness and grateful spiritual containment and all the things that you aspire your self to have or be which will result in a specific feeling in which you can have that feeling without equating your happiness and satisfaction to them with absolute clarity that such concept must never affect your motivation to achieve what you want in life but it should only give you a perfect psychological palace for your mind to be absolutely in control and give a mind set where a balanced psychological status is the norm and the remaining of emotional mental status are the minority and occasionally rare.
The goal in my perspective is to achieve psychological minimalism of the self where the baseline of your happiness, success, satisfaction is achieved from within you not from what you’re or what you have by lowering the bar of the things or people that can make reach this status which make you psychologically self- complementing with the fact you need people and things to reach such a status with care that their non-existence is not a condition to reach such a status.
My personal massage on such observation that, an individual must have the mindfulness to observe the fast movement of living that we live in where people want a quick fix , quick salary, quick reward and follow the social trends which will result in a behavior which will make them behavioral junkies to the social norms without the attentive consciousness to filter what’s right/ wrong, what they really need to reach a psychological status of joyful containment of who they are or what they have and make them truly appreciate the blessings they have in their live without being on the edge of a feeling that they always want more of everything and not achieving that will make them miserable or unhappy.